click here INTRODUCING ASB’s
[54a middle] R’ Yoseph: Once a widow is involved with beautification procedures (painting her eyes or braiding her hair), she forfeits the right to be supported by her previous husband’s estate [as these behaviors signify that she is no longer solely united with the memory of her first husband, and prove that she is ready to continue with a new life via attraction methods].
get link Prac-T-cal Tidbits: We must always know when actions are permissible for the sake of Torah and when they otherwise inappropriate behaviors that are purely attention-seeking (ASB: Attention Seeking Behavior); for the limelight and attraction of others. We should try to be carefully modest in most areas [physical, mental, and spiritual], so as not to bring unwanted evil energies our way. Humility is the key to open the door that lets G-d’s Holiness in.